Have you ever wanted to just run over and pet the friendly looking Labrador at the lake, or the perfectly coiffed poodle at the park? When we’re out and about and we see an adorable pup, we get the same urge — trust us. If we could, we’d drop whatever we’re doing, book it across the street and give that stranger’s dog all the love in the world. And while some dogs and their owners may be more than willing to let us have a much-needed dose of dog love, others may prefer that we remain on the other side of the road. There are many reasons why an owner may not want you to touch their canine companion, or let your own dog run up and administer a friendly greeting. Let’s explore…
Many dogs are wary of strangers and can be reactive when approached.
Rescue dogs with a history of abuse, and dogs who are protective of their owners or have not been socialized well, are just a few examples of pups who may not appreciate a well-meaning pat on the melon. These dogs may not realize that your intentions are friendly, and many times their first reaction towards the unknown is to be aggressive. Some pooches will appear calm one minute, and will be a ball of fur and teeth the next. This is simply their defense mechanism, and one that should be respected at a distance.
Perhaps the owner just doesn't want you touching their dog.
I mean, if a stranger asked to ruffle your toddler’s hair and squeeze their cheeks, you would likely say no, right? We all have our own bubbles, and we set boundaries for our own personal reasons. It’s also important to consider full and comprehensive health care for pets is not a universal concept. Every pet owner cares for their pets in the way that they deem best. Your own pup may be vaccinated with all of the core and lifestyle vaccines, but that doesn’t mean your neighbor’s dog is equally as vaccinated. Their dog may not be current on vaccines or preventative medications. Those owners aren’t necessarily being rude, but they are looking out for their own pup’s health. To be frank, it may also be in your own dog’s best interest to steer clear of strange dogs, since you never know their health history or what vaccinations they have received.
Service dogs train and work in the public.
Most times, these animals wear vests to signify their purpose, but occasionally these dogs are “unmarked” or in advanced obedience training. You should never approach or attempt to pet a service dog that is working. That would be like walking up to a stranger who is in the middle of a Zoom meeting, and asking them where to find the nearest coffee shop. While these well-trained dogs are taught to ignore distractions, even the best of them would have difficulty with your 85-pound Golden bouncing around and trying to convince them to play. Canines can have jobs too!
Elderly pets may startle easily.
Perhaps that senior pooch is vision-impaired and doesn’t see you approach, or the old gal can’t hear as well and does not realize that you’ve entered their space. Respecting older pets and their “bubbles” will prevent unfortunate incidents like an uncharacteristic nip.
We want you to be aware of the reasons why a pet or owner may not want attention from strangers. That being said, it is certainly possible to respectfully and safely introduce yourself to a new dog. If you just can’t help yourself and want to say “hi,” follow these easy steps:
- If you have any canine companions with you, DO NOT let them be on a long lead. Keep them next to your side on a short leash, and maintain firm control of your own dogs at all times.
- As you approach, greet the other pet owner and ask if their dog is friendly. Do they mind if you pet him/her, or if the two dogs sniff noses?
- If the owner is agreeable, slowly approach them with confidence and offer a closed hand for the dog to sniff. You can then scratch the dog under the chin – going over the top of the head is seen as a dominant move to a dog.
- If the dog seems shy or nervous, don’t push things. You can ask the owner if they have a tasty treat that you could offer to break the ice. If the owner feels comfortable with this option, offer the treat on an open hand, with your fingers held together. You can also try getting down to the dog’s level (if possible), as this will make you seem less intimidating.
While many of us dog-lovers just want to snuggle up with every dog we see, not every dog wants to cuddle us back. Sometimes a compliment to the owner on the dog’s gorgeous coat or cute collar will have to suffice (and may be much appreciated, too!).
